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All of us carry some kind of slash marriage have a healthy relationship. I was just talking with a colleague this morning about this.

She just got married and I said, how's it going? She said, three months, it's going well and I shared

a little bit about things I'm still dealing with after 35 years.

Dina and I have a pretty good marriage but we still have some baggage from our

childhood that we have to unpack and continue to deal with.

And I wasn't trying to scare her or anything. I was just saying, you know what, it's worth it. It takes some work, but it's worth it.

Greg, you and Aaron have, I mean, you've gotten all of your baggage dealt with, right? I mean.

Right. Yeah, I was thinking what's wrong with you. That's why you're. all of your baggage dealt with right I mean right yeah those things

what's wrong with you that's why you're the host of a podcast I'm not gonna let you

talk to any of our colleagues if that's what you're saying to them we all have

baggage yeah and I went through a really traumatic experience in college.

So several years before I walked down the aisle with Aaron and I didn't deal with some of the issues that I really should have just was oblivious I

didn't understand it so the impact in my marriage I then showed up as a very

passive husband based on what had happened to me now. I'm this passive

husband just so frustrated Aaron. Just the way that I would show up just it just she I

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