Hi everyone, it's Rosie. Welcome to Radio Headspace and to Wednesday.

So I was speaking at a conference a few weeks ago and I had a conversation with a dear friend

and fellow speaker. As we sat there discussing our common love for Mexican food, she put her

hand on mine and told me, what you said on stage about opportunities being all around us

was genius. I laughed and said, oh, I was just stating the obvious. Of course, I know she

was attempting to give me a compliment, but I have to admit it felt uneasy or uncomfortable

even. She smiled and we continued to have much more important conversations about where to find

the best tacos in LA. But this incident got me thinking, why is it difficult for some people

to receive compliments? So today, let's talk about believing positive feedback and how to accept

a compliment. I think the biggest obstacle people face in accepting a compliment is that maybe

it's something that we don't believe about ourselves and we're really stuck in this intrinsic

self-deprecating loop. So when somebody gives us a compliment, we feel like it's out of alignment

to our status quo. If we're able to accept compliments for what they are, little seeds

of encouragement, we can take that seed and plant it and really nourish it and see what happens

over time. For example, if we get a compliment over a job well done, if you really enjoy doing

it, you can take that seedling and continue to nourish it and continue to grow and succeed

in that area of your life. Or it can simply just be a seedling that you accept and put in

your pocket for later. Obviously, as per the conversation I had with my friend, I still

struggle with this myself. But I've had a lot of practice over the last few years in accepting

compliments. One of the biggest pieces of advice that I received from a dear friend of mine

was just to say, thank you. And nothing else. Just take the compliment. The second thing

I learned is to acknowledge the compliment and tell the person it's nice to hear. For

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