"Surrendered Sexuality" with Dr. Juli Slattery
The Allender Center Podcast
The Allender Center
4.7 • 648 Ratings
🗓️ 10 October 2025
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
When you hear the words "surrendered sexuality," what comes to mind—loss, shame, control? In this conversation, you'll hear a different vision.
In this week's episode, Dr. Dan Allender is joined by clinical psychologist and author Dr. Juli Slattery. Together, they open up a vulnerable and hope-filled dialogue about sexuality—one that goes far beyond rules or "right answers."
Drawing from her new book Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes Everything, Juli shares how her own journey, through disruption, prayer, and deepening intimacy with God, led her to recognize the unspoken pain so many of us carry around sexuality.
Rather than focusing on behaviors, Dan and Juli invite you to see sexuality as a core part of being human: your body, your emotions, your longing for connection, and ultimately, your intimacy with God.
They also reframe what it means to surrender. Instead of shame or control, surrender becomes a gentle, ongoing invitation into the goodness of God—an opening to more pleasure in life, meaningful healing, and deeper trust in Jesus.
This isn't an episode with tidy conclusions or quick fixes. It's an invitation to step into the mystery of sexuality as part of your discipleship journey, and to discover that in surrender, you don't lose yourself. You find life: a life that is more whole, more connected, and more deeply rooted in the goodness of God.
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| 0:00.0 | The pain of abuse doesn't simply go away over time. |
| 0:06.4 | It lingers. It shapes how we live, how we relate, and even how we care for ourselves and others. |
| 0:13.2 | And in the busyness of everyday life, it can be really hard to face that pain. |
| 0:18.3 | Maybe you've talked with a trusted friend or have done some personal work. |
| 0:21.6 | But still, it can feel like you're not going deep enough to really address the weight of your story. |
| 0:27.6 | That's where Recovery Week comes in. For over 30 years, Dr. Dan Allender and the Allender Center have hosted these immersive workshops for men, for women, and now for women with |
| 0:39.0 | the focus on racial trauma and healing. Recovery Weeks gives you the time to step away from your |
| 0:44.0 | daily life and into a space with small groups, one-on-one sessions, and guided teaching. This is a |
| 0:50.3 | space where you can truly name the harm of your past, receive good care, and learn |
| 0:55.4 | to love your own story. |
| 0:57.6 | And as you engage your past with more honesty and compassion, you'll begin to see the |
| 1:02.3 | possibility of hope, restoration, and a future, shaped not by the abuse you suffered, but |
| 1:09.1 | by the healing, goodness, and life you are moving toward. |
| 1:12.4 | You can learn more about upcoming dates and the application process for recovery weeks at |
| 1:17.5 | the Allender Center.org slash workshops. |
| 1:34.0 | Thank you for listening to the Allender Center podcast. I'm Dr. Dan Allender. |
| 1:35.8 | And I'm Rachel Clinton-Chen. |
| 1:37.4 | We're fiercely committed to providing hope and healing to a fragmented world. |
| 1:41.8 | And restoration for the heart. |
| 1:45.7 | Thank you for joining us. |
| 1:47.4 | Let's get this conversation started. When we talk about, |
| 2:00.8 | there's always a hint of the unknown, the uncertain, the elusive, the inviting. In other words, it's a very complex but compelling topic. And I have such a privilege to be with a friend who I've only been with literally, I think, once or twice in our whole season of knowing one another. But Dr. Julie Slattery, it is a delight to have you here. I'll introduce you in a moment, |
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