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I am your co-host, Christina Dodson.

On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberling and Nill Smith.

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This month at Awesome Marriage, we're talking about subtle marriage killers. All couples have great intentions of having a

happy and healthy marriage, but so many of us end up getting off track and there are

subtle things that can really affect a marriage and destroy it. So today we're going to be

talking about one subtle marriage killer that can affect

your marriage, which is discounting your spouse's feelings and opinions. Dr. Kim, what do we mean

when we say that? What does it mean to discount your spouse's feelings and opinions?

I think we can do that in a lot of ways. We can do it overtly by just saying that doesn't make sense

or you're not smart enough and I don't

you know whatever or the other side I think the to me one of the worst ones is just ignoring it

your spouse expresses their opinion express their feelings about something you act like they didn't

even say it and so I think we can do it overtly just verbally and we can do it also in our body

language and just ignoring somebody.

And that's not what we want. I mean, your spouse, you get married with someone to connect,

to do life with, to want to be on the same level, you know, this symbiotic relationship.

And when we start discounting and putting the person down, it takes away from that.

And I think it disconnects. Yeah, certainly. And I think

you're so right. I think it's one of those things that we've talked a lot about here at awesome

marriage is it's important to value the things that your spouse values. And so this is kind of the

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