Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. I have Wendy Hernandez on today's

episode. Wendy is a courtroom warrior who has tackled every type of family law matter from divorce to child

custody to everything in between. Welcome, Wendy. Thank you, Ann. It's wonderful to be here.

So many of our listeners are just finding out about their husband's abuse or their husband's

pornography use or this double life. And they're

starting to wrap their head around the fact that they might be in an abusive relationship. So we have

that segment of listeners. Then we have a segment of listeners who are now that they're looking

back on their marriage post-divorce. They're like, whoa, I didn't realize that all the stuff that

happened to me is under the umbrella of abuse.

Those women, when it comes to the law, are most concerned about upcoming custody issues that have

happened since the divorce. Let's first talk to that first demographic of women who are just

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