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As they get older, one of the main questions your children are going to ask is, do I belong?

Peer pressure can become a dangerous force in your child's life if he or she is desperate

for acceptance from friends and can't do that in a

healthy way. I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werta who's head of our parenting

and youth team here at Focus on the Family and Danny it seems much easier for kids to

resist peer pressure if they have some strong sense of belonging in the family.

That's not a hundred percent but it seems like that's a good

preventer of some of that inability to resist

peer pressure. What's your advice for parents to help their children feel loved and

accepted in the home? Yeah and you're absolutely right John. The family secure base, that base for a child makes a huge difference on a child handling adversity, pressures, temptations, it begins in the home.

And I can't overemphasize that.

That the Bible says that, research points to that.

So our homes are very, very important.

And it's about having intentional moments with our children,

intentionally looking at what they're interested in,

intentionally entering conversations.

One thing that we've done in our house that I love is the high five. You talk about five things that you've observed in your

child that are not behaviors. They're about who they're created to be.

And not about what they're doing, but about what you observe unique in them.

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