Thank you for downloading the Focus on the Family Parenting Podcast. You can find more helpful advice at focus on the family.com

slash parenting podcast. You've heard the old adage that actions speak louder than words and that especially

applies to parenting. If you don't follow through on a warning or a promise your kids are

going to remember that.

And they're going to think, well, mom or dad,

they don't really mean what they say.

I'm John Fuller, along with Danny Werter,

who's a licensed clinical social worker

and is vice president of

focused on the family's parenting department.

Danny, what prevents us as parents from following through on what we said we

would do?

I think there are multiple factors.

It really does take time to discipline and to teach our kids. And so time is a huge factor. Another one is our very own emotions, our anxiety about stepping into a parenting moment and correcting our own child and

child and seeing them upset and crying and creating an emotionally

painful moment for our children,

where they're being corrected, maybe they lose a toy

or something else, and that can be hard on us.

We want to see our kids succeed.

And so sometimes those our very own feelings prevent us from from stepping in the way we need to and the other one is embarrassment we we feel that other people are watching and we don't want to correct a child there and I've seen

that over and over again with parents that look around and you can tell they

would have probably done something different in that

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