Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Today I want to talk about keeping that sanity, keeping your power.

There's a way that we behave in relationships that cause reactions from other people.

These reactions are either favorable or not.

And these reactions have to do with the old patterns that have developed in our relationship

over the months or years.

And how we behave and how we respond typically will indicate how they behave and how they respond.

And what's good to notice is when our behavior insights a certain response from the other

person.

Now, in some emotionally abusive relationships, no matter what behavior you do,

will incite something unfavorable from the other person.

And that unfavorable response could be any number of things in order to get what that person wants, to control you, to have power over you,

or just to have a situation work out in the way they want, in a favorable way for them, so that they benefit.

But even in healthy relationships where you have two people that are working together and going

toward similar goals or at least walking in the same direction holding hands you have times

where one response will elicit an unfavorable response from the other person which is why it's

important to know that,

hey, when I respond like this, how does that person respond?

How does that person act?

What do they say?

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