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Hi, this is Janet Landsbury.

Welcome to Unruffled.

Well, today I'm going to be talking about a subject that is everyone's favorite thing for their child to do.

Just kidding. It's not.

Whining.

This most irritating sound that most kids make at some point.

It's obnoxious. It's ear splitting.

It feels like it's demanding of us that we fix something, that we make it stop.

It's very, very challenging. And a parent reached out to me about her daughter who's seven now,

and she's been whining a lot. And it is driving this parent bunkers, and she's wondering what she can do.

So here's what she wrote to me. It was a message on, I think it was Facebook. Hi, Janet. I've emailed you a few times over the years as well. I come back to you today to see if you have any guidance for my latest

parenting issue. Before I do, some background on me is that I'm a parenting podcast junkie. I've

listened to all of yours and other people's. I've read all the books out there. Anytime you

suggest a book, I read it, including yours. I practically am a parenting

expert myself. I say this to let you know that I know all the things about respectful parenting.

And still, this one keeps stumping me. My seven-year-old daughter is a bit of a whiny kid,

and it seems to be intensifying over the last

few months specifically. Unfortunately for me, whining is the one thing that really triggers me.

So I imagine that is why she constantly whines. She's kicked it up a notch with lots of pouting in recent weeks.

The other thing that really bothers me is that she's always asking for more, another toy,

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