Last week I mentioned that I left my AirPods at a motel in Rexburg, Idaho, and I am now using a new pair, but I cannot lie, I find myself pulling up my old AirPods a couple of times a day to see what they're up to. I mark them on find my phone as lost, but they are most definitely being used. They are not lost. The funny thing is that I had the case custom

engraved. It literally says virtual couch podcast and my name. So as I'm recording this, I guess I

sort of hope that the person keeping them for me right now is listening. And if they are,

I really did mean to try and clean off the earwax that is built up around those silicon

ear tip things,

and that is absolutely my bad. I will take ownership and accountability of that. But why do I keep

watching them? I've purchased new ones, and again to the person that may be using them right now,

my kids will eat again next week, and it's almost summer who needs souls on their shoes anyway, right?

But I'm kidding. I know that continually checking and wondering and ruminating

really doesn't help me pretty much in any way, shape, or form. And speaking of wondering and

ruminating, how often do we find ourselves trying to psychoanalyze why we did something that perhaps

we aren't very proud of? Or why did my spouse not tell me that they were unhappy? Or why did my

partner engage in an emotional or a physical affair? So why do you think she did that? That is a question that I was asked three different times yesterday, literally, in my office, followed closely by, well, why do you think he did that? Being asked two different times, and then receiving the bronze medal in therapy yesterday was, well, why do you

think that I did that? So we really do want to make sense of things. We want to try to figure things out.

We want to fix. We want to solve. And bless our little pink, squishy hearts, if that isn't just the

most adorable thing. Because in all honesty, we're trying to figure out why someone else did

something without being them and without having

their lifetime of experiences that in essence led them to do whatever they did, whatever that is.

But does trying to figure everything out, trying to understand why somebody did something or why we

keep doing what we do, is it actually the most productive use of our time?

Now, I am not saying that you don't go back and review the game film of what happened., is it actually the most productive use of our time? Now, I am not saying that you don't

go back and review the game film of what happened that is absolutely and can be extremely helpful.

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