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THE ED MYLETT SHOW

STOP Trying To Change Others! People Change Only If They Want To - Ed Mylett

THE ED MYLETT SHOW

Ed Mylett

Business, Education, Self-improvement, Entrepreneurship

4.914.1K Ratings

🗓️ 18 April 2026

⏱️ 94 minutes

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Summary

Upgrade your denim game with rag & bone! Get 20% off sitewide with code MYLETT at www.rag-bone.com #ragandbonepod What if the real reason you’re stuck isn’t a lack of talent… but the invisible patterns controlling your decisions, your confidence, and your ability to take action? In this mashup episode, I’m bringing together some of the most powerful minds on behavior, influence, discipline, and self-awareness to help you break through what’s really been holding you back. You’re going to hear from Zoe Chance, Trent Shelton, Alex Hormozi, and Dean Graziosi as we unpack the hidden forces that shape your life. And I’ll tell you this right now, most people are not losing because they don’t know what to do. They’re losing because something internal is quietly sabotaging their execution. Zoe Chance breaks down the psychology of influence and why so many of us struggle to ask for what we want, whether that’s in business, relationships, or life. Trent Shelton brings the truth about self-worth and discipline, reminding you that your standards determine your results. Alex Hormozi gets tactical and real about what it actually takes to win, why excuses are costing you everything, and how to build leverage through action. And Dean Graziosi shares how shifting your mindset and identity can unlock opportunities that have been sitting right in front of you the entire time. One of the biggest themes in this episode is awareness. Because once you become aware of what’s holding you back, it begins to lose its power over you . Whether it’s discouragement, fear, comparison, or the need for approval, these silent killers are showing up in your life every single day. And if you don’t identify them, they will keep you stuck in the same patterns, the same results, and the same frustration. But the moment you see them clearly, you can start to take your power back. We also dive into the dangerous habits that rob you of happiness and momentum, especially comparison. When you compare your life to others or even to your past, you create unnecessary dissatisfaction and stall your growth . The truth is, your path is your path. And the faster you own it, the faster you can build something meaningful, impactful, and truly yours. This episode is about taking control again. It’s about raising your standards, getting honest about where you are, and deciding that you are no longer going to let these hidden forces run your life. You don’t need more information. You need more awareness, more discipline, and more intentional action. That’s how you separate. That’s how you win. Key Takeaways: Why awareness is the first step to breaking any limiting pattern in your life How discouragement, fear, and doubt quietly steal your dreams if left unchecked Zoe Chance’s insight on why asking boldly is a skill that changes everything Trent Shelton’s truth about discipline and raising your personal standards Alex Hormozi’s no-excuses framework for executing at a high level Dean Graziosi’s mindset shifts that unlock opportunity and growth How comparison creates unhappiness and slows your momentum The importance of taking ownership and controlling your internal state 👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ←  ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FACEBOOK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LINKEDIN⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WEBSITE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

This is the Edmiler Show.

0:05.0

Hey everyone, welcome to my weekend special.

0:11.0

I hope you enjoy the show.

0:12.0

Be sure to follow the Edmyshow on Apple and Spotify.

0:15.0

Links are in the show notes.

0:17.0

You'll never miss an episode that way.

0:19.0

Now on with the show.

0:20.0

All right, welcome back to the show. I love our Thursday episodes because it gives me a chance to answer your questions on the show. So I love creating content for you when I do the interviews or my solo episodes, but I also love answering your questions because I know that it's exactly the things that you need help with. And so today's no exception. By the way, if you have something

0:37.5

you want help with or a question answered, you can DM me on Instagram at Ed Milet, and there's a chance to lend up on the show like it did today. Today's question is all about change, which is a really interesting one, except not change of oneself, change of another person. So this person's question was, Can you please help me change my spouse in the way they behave?

0:55.4

Let me be very clear with you.

0:57.4

No, I can't. So this person's question was, can you please help me change my spouse in the way they behave?

0:55.0

Let me be very clear with you.

0:57.0

No, I can't.

0:59.0

And more importantly, neither can you.

1:02.0

So many of us, and I'll put myself included in this, we are wasting so much time, effort and energy,

1:08.0

trying to get another human being to change when they're not going to.

1:12.4

They're certainly not going to change for you. If a human being is going to change their behavior,

1:17.4

they're going to change that behavior because they choose to, because they want to.

1:21.8

And no cajoling, no threatening, no encouraging is going to get another human being to change on your behalf.

1:28.6

And so so many of you are wasting energy, focus, and time with somebody who is not going to change.

1:36.7

And so you need to decide.

1:38.1

I'm not saying that you don't want people to treat you in a way that you deserve or that you're worthy of.

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