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Daily Boost — Motivation and Coaching

Stop Saying Yes So Much

Daily Boost — Motivation and Coaching

Scott Smith

Education, Self-improvement, Business, Health & Fitness

3.91.5K Ratings

🗓️ 11 February 2026

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

I've been noticing something about you. And me. We're saying yes too much. Saturday afternoon hits. You're deep into Netflix or binging Guy Fieri. Then you remember you committed to dinner that night. Good friends. You really want to go. But in that moment, you're thinking, why did I say yes? Been there. Done that. Last two weeks straight. All self-inflicted. The small yeses become big ones. The automatic yeses stack up. And suddenly you're exhausted from conversations you never agreed to have. Today we're fixing that by learning how to say yes to yourself more. Featured Story I'm standing in my kitchen, coffee in hand, phone out, scrolling through messages. They all seem so urgent. So important. Somebody writes something really nice. I can tell they ran it through ChatGPT to make it sound good. Too slick. You're not that nice. But I'm compelled to say yes to all of it. Nothing dramatic is happening. Just normal deadlines. Normal requests. Expectations that weren't even announced but somehow just showed up. And I realize something quiet but powerful. It wasn't the work making my life complicated. It was all the yeses. Small ones. Automatic ones. Yeses I never consciously chose. All self-inflicted because I allowed them into my life. Important Points The stress you feel isn't from big decisions but from the constant volume of little yeses piling up every day. When someone gives you something first, the law of reciprocity kicks in and you've just stacked up obligations. Most of us are exhausted from conversations we never agreed to have and urgency that was never actually even ours. Memorable Quotes "If you're constantly saying yes to others first, you're automatically saying no to yourself and your dreams." "When generosity shows up before they ask, it builds trust and connection, but make no mistake, you just said yes." "Simplicity isn't doing less for the sake of it, but consciously choosing what actually deserves your precious yes." Scott's Three-Step Approach Pause before agreeing to anything and create a clear pre-planned response for when people ask you for things today. Either decline the gift upfront or accept it while clearly stating you don't accept the obligation that comes with it. Practice going dark on requests that don't deserve your energy because not everything actually needs an answer. Chapters 0:02 - You've been saying yes way too much lately 2:07 - The kitchen moment when everything felt urgent 5:18 - Decision fatigue is killing your energy slowly 7:13 - The law of reciprocity is trapping you daily 11:09 - Two simple ways to escape the obligation cycle 13:04 - Pre-planned responses will save your sanity Connect With Me Search for the Daily Boost on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify Email: support@motivationtomove.com Main Website: https://motivationtomove.com YouTube: https://youtube.com/dailyboostpodcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/heyscottsmith Facebook Page: https://facebook.com/motivationtomove Facebook Group: https://dailyboostpodcast.com/facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:17.5

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0:18.6

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0:19.2

Listen, I've been noticing something about you. And you and you and you, are you late again? Get in here? The show's already started, okay? You too, by the way. And me too. It's not just you, it's me and everybody. You've been saying yes too much to other people, right? I need a boost. I need a daily boost. I need a boost. I need a daily Have you ever been sitting around on a Saturday afternoon?

0:45.5

The week is finally calm and chilling, right?

0:47.9

You're on the sofa, you're into Netflix or maybe binge on like Guy Fieri or something on the food channel.

0:52.5

Then who hasn't done that?

0:53.4

Or maybe it's, is it cake? Tell me you haven't done that more, right? But you're there, you're chilling in the afternoon. And suddenly you remember you're going out that night. You're going out for dinner, maybe some friends, good friends. You really do enjoy them. You really do want to go out. But in that moment in time, you're like, why did I say yes?

1:28.1

That happened to me the last two weeks. I've been busy. All of itself inflicted. I said, yes, too much. It's okay. I wish, I probably, I didn't want to say no. I said yes, why did I do it? Today, I hurt. My legs hurt. I was at the gym yesterday. Walked in and Daniel, kind that I work out sometimes said, hey man, you want to do legs today?

1:29.7

Yeah, let's do legs.

3:09.4

Yes, yes, yes. Today I'm saying, why, why, why. I should have said, no, no, no. Do you know how that works, right? So we'll talk about that today as we get into the show. If you haven't sent me a note lately on Instagram, you should do it. You have an obligation every so often to say, hey, or something to me. Okay, you do. I do the podcast. You sometimes have to say hi to me. So, on Instagram, it's Hey, Scott Smith, or you can send me a note to Scott at Dailyboospodcast.com. It's your moral obligation to support your local podcaster. Okay. So I was in the kitchen and I was drinking some coffee. I do that. I'm like, yeah, sometimes I get a scratchy through it. I should not be drinking as much coffee as I do, but, you know, hard habit, old habits. So I drink this coffee, got my phone out there. I'm kind of scrolling through all kinds of messages and kind of checking things out. I keep a pretty strict schedule. I kind of ignore it. But if I'm in the kitchen in the middle of the day and I'm working, I'll kind of multitask, right? So I'm scrolling through all these messages. It says, man, they seem so urgent. When somebody writes me a message, most people are pretty urgent. Oh, they'll say it really nice. They'll go through chat GPT to make sure it's worded well. I can tell when you did that. I can't. You're not that nice. I get it. It's too slick. They all seem so important, but somehow I am compelled to say yes to lots of things. It's amazing because when I look at things, nothing dramatic is going on. It's just kind of a normal morning. I mean, they're normal deadlines or normal requests, things like that. Expectations that weren't announced sometimes, they just kind of, I don't know where they come from, but they just show up a normal day, right? But have you ever noticed that sometimes here you're just being pleasing? You're saying yes to people. You're saying yes to yourself. That's what you think. Because we think if I say yes more, if I help and serve other people, I'm going to get more

3:12.9

myself. And you are absolutely right when done right. But still, why does your chest get tight?

3:20.5

Why do your shoulders get tight? Why do you think, why am I doing this?

3:27.3

It's like I was agreeing to a thousand things that I didn't even agree to agree with, all because other people are kind of leaning on me and I'm giving these yeses out without even really doing much.

3:38.3

And sometimes without even saying a word.

3:40.1

Now, for a long time, I thought my life was complicated.

3:56.2

Because the work was complicated. That's what I thought. When I went to work and did things, I do kind of important work, although not always. It's hard to tell. Depending on if you listen to me, maybe it's important, maybe it's time. Big responsibilities will do that to you. I have a business. I have people I support, all kinds of things.

3:57.1

Second foot tension, right?

3:58.4

Serious job, serious people.

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