Stop People-Pleasing: The Nervous System Science Behind Emotional Outsourcing with Beatriz Victoria Albina | Ep 383
The Funk'tional Nutrition Podcast
Erin Holt
4.9 • 759 Ratings
🗓️ 28 October 2025
⏱️ 59 minutes
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Summary
What happens when your body forgets how to feel safe? In this episode, Erin is talking to Beatriz Victoria Albina, a Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing – to explore the link between codependency, perfectionism, and chronic stress.
“Emotional outsourcing” develops as a survival strategy for safety, belonging, and worth, and it can leave us feeling completely disconnected from our bodies and unable to regulate our nervous systems.
Bea explains how somatic awareness helps rebuild interoception, restore digestion, and rebalance the body’s stress response and HOW these patterns show up in everything from poor boundaries to physical symptoms like constipation and fatigue. If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, burnout, or the pressure to hold it all together, this powerful framework will help you return home to yourself.
In this episode:
- How emotional outsourcing shows up as “brilliant survival strategies” like perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependency
- Why we jump away from imagined cobras as self-protection, and how somatic awareness can help
- How chronic stress rewires your nervous system and literally halts digestion (THIS could be why you feel constipated or constantly run down!)
- The rise of “therapy-speak” and rigid boundary-setting, and why it has left many of us disconnected
- Why you need to stop outsourcing your safety, worth, and validation and begin the lifelong work of self-sourcing your own power, clarity, and calm
Resources mentioned:
Check out Beatriz’s book, End Emotional Outsourcing
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| 0:00.0 | When you're chronically stressed, when you're looking outside you for validation constantly, |
| 0:05.6 | when life feels more about everyone else than about you, your body is literally not getting the |
| 0:11.6 | signals to do one of your most basic functions, which is anabolism and catabolism and metabolism. |
| 0:18.6 | You're not breaking food down. So you're not getting |
| 0:20.9 | nutrients. So why are you getting sick all the time? Well, you're not getting your zinc and your |
| 0:26.4 | C and you're at D because you're not absorbing. Right? Why are you constipated or constantly |
| 0:32.3 | have the poopies? Right? Because you're wicked stressed. Welcome to the functional nutrition podcast. |
| 0:39.7 | Spell it with a K because we do things a little differently around here. |
| 0:42.8 | I'm your host, Erin Holt, and I've got 15 years of clinical experience as a functional nutritionist and mindset coach, |
| 0:48.5 | creating a new model that I call intuitive functional medicine, |
| 0:51.8 | where we combine root cause medicine with the innate intelligence |
| 0:54.8 | of your body. This is where science meets self-trust. Your body already knows how to heal, |
| 1:01.1 | and this show is going to show you how. If you're looking for new ways of thinking about your health, |
| 1:05.8 | be sure to follow and share with a friend because you never know whose life you might change. |
| 1:11.8 | Hey, my friends, I've got a great show for you today. I have someone special who I just adore |
| 1:17.1 | Bea, Victoria Albina. She's been on the show before. And I just love her so much. I don't know |
| 1:22.4 | if it's a New England thing. She's from Rhode Island. So we just connect. I love her presence. |
| 1:26.3 | I love her energy. I love her body of work. She's a Rhode Island. So we just connect. I love her presence. I love her energy. I love her |
| 1:28.5 | body of work. She's a family nurse practitioner, a somatic experiencing practitioner, a master |
| 1:34.2 | certified somatic life coach, and host of the feminist wellness podcast. But why I brought her back |
| 1:39.7 | on the show is because I'm so stinking proud of her. She wrote a beautiful book that is out as of right now, |
| 1:47.8 | and it's called End Emotional Outsourcing, a Guide to Overcoming, Codependent, Perfectionist, |
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