Stop People Pleasing, Start Feeling Secure
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 5 May 2026
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
Trevor Hanson is back for part two, and this episode goes even deeper into people pleasing, anxious attachment, and what it really means to feel secure in yourself. We talk about why even secure people can feel anxious in certain relationships, how to stop abandoning yourself to keep others happy, setting boundaries without guilt, and how identifying your values can completely change the way you date and heal.
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| 0:00.0 | I am so excited and grateful to have Trevor Hansen back on the podcast. |
| 0:09.2 | Trevor, welcome back to seeing other people. |
| 0:11.5 | Hey, thanks for having me back. |
| 0:12.9 | I'm glad to be here. |
| 0:14.2 | There is so much that we talked about. |
| 0:16.1 | And I knew like five minutes into our last recording, I was like, we could go on for hours. And there's so |
| 0:23.5 | much to learn from you. There's so much that I knew seeing other people family was going to love. |
| 0:31.0 | And sure enough, they were reaching out after wanting more, Trevor. So here we are, part two. |
| 0:37.0 | Great. Let's do it. I'm ready for it. |
| 0:39.4 | Okay. So for those who missed the first episode with Trevor, Trevor is a therapist. He is a |
| 0:45.1 | secure attachment expert coach. And if you haven't listened to part one of our two-part episode, |
| 0:52.1 | go listen. It really is such an amazing episode and there's so much to |
| 0:55.5 | learn from it. And I think you do such an incredible job of breaking down really complicated |
| 1:02.2 | topics and making them make sense and making them sound tangible and digestible and really |
| 1:09.7 | like something we can actually work on. |
| 1:12.9 | So today, we're going to talk more about people pleasing. |
| 1:16.9 | We're going to talk more about going from secure or thinking that you're secure to feeling |
| 1:23.5 | anxious in a relationship. |
| 1:25.2 | But where I want to start is we talked a lot about healing |
| 1:29.9 | and combating the idea that maybe we're unlovable, but we're actually not because we have |
| 1:37.6 | all this proof. What happens when somebody stops healing or they feel like they've reached this point where |
| 1:48.4 | they've moved forward from a relationship. |
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