What up guys this is Lisa Bilyu here and I want to talk to you about something that I think a lot of us deal with but we don't really talk about much and that's settling. We settle in a relationship, we settle in life, we settle in our careers, we settle with our average Wednesday because we just think well it's good enough and who am I to complain? Oh who am I to complain? God damn that breaks my heart. And so when I heard this start, it was just confirmation

that we need help.

We need help to not settle.

We need help to know how it can work. And we need help to figure out how we start to lean into it. Did you know that 30% of women, 30% of women have doubts about the person that they're going to marry? And yet we still go through with it. Now I don't know about you, but that's that.

Just shook me to my core

and actually breaks my heart a little.

Why on earth do we ignore our own intuition? Why on earth do we tell ourselves that we can't do better? Why do we dismiss ourselves and go down a part that we know isn't right for us, whether we talk about marriage or anything in our lives? And that's exactly what we're getting into today with my girl, Rear Williams. She's a freaking powerhouse coach who has seen it all when it comes to love, relationships and self-worth. And so guys, in this episode we dive into the real reasons women stay in relationships that we know isn't right for us. And then we go into how we can stop shrinking ourselves just to make it work. And then finally we talk about why building our self-worth is the only

way to make sure that you never settle again. Now my homie, I'm telling you, this episode and women of impact in general isn't about being spiritual entertainment. Yes, I want you to feel great about yourself by the time you're done with this interview, but I actually want you to make a change in your life. I don't want you to take some of your precious time and listen to this podcasts and not leave with being able to then make change yourself. So if you're that

person right now that is thinking, maybe this is just as good as it's gonna get. Then my homey, this episode is your wake up call. Grab your coffee, grab whatever you need to to make notes because we're diving in right now with the incredible real Williams right here on Women of Impact. 30% of women have doubts about the person they're going to marry, and yet they still marry them anyway. So why on earth do we ignore our gut intuition and settle for less than we deserve? I'm going to say societal pressure. I'm going to say religion plays a factor, and I'll tell you this. I can relate to this on a personal level and also professionally. We hear relationships are hard, love is tough, but you know you also have to be realistic and I think a lot of times people think this will change once these vows are said. I do very much deal with people where you are and embracing reality for what it is not for what you hope hope it to be, not for the fantasy, not for what you see.

So I think those 30% of women,

I do know what it feels like to, to where you've wavered. Some people just waver, and you literally stay stuck in the middle. I don't think everyone needs to be married, though. I think the institution of marriage, especially in today's times, is not for everyone, But for those people that are saying, okay, sometimes you go through life and you find yourself in relationships and making decisions without it really connecting to what you want.

Again. not for everyone, but for those people that are saying, okay, sometimes you go through life and you find yourself in relationships and making decisions without it really

connecting to what you want.

Again, whether it's your parents, whether it's what you see,

whether it's your age, or just, you know, societal pressure.

So what's the difference between let's say the reality

of what someone wants and then the hope?

The hope.

This is the rule no matter what it is.

You can change any situation. You can create the relationship you want, right?

So those people who may say, you know what,

this is not perfect or maybe I don't feel 100%, but I'll get there, there's hope in that. There's motivation in that, but it doesn't come without work or effort. So to do nothing and to feel the hesitation, to feel those apprehensions, to present itself, to where you may not be 100% you can get to 100.

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