Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Are you someone who sometimes doesn't get their needs met?

Oh, I think we are all this person at different situations in our life.

Maybe with you at work, maybe it's with friends,

maybe it's with strangers, maybe it's on airplanes,

maybe it is with family.

When we don't get our needs met, I mean there are many contributing factors to this, of course,

but there is one, one variable, but we get to control that so many of us just I think don't even realize and then even if we do realize it we don't activate it because frankly we're a little bit scared it can feel scary to do this.

And it's this.

Stop hinting and start asking. I know that when I was a little bit younger just say I was

with a group of people say I was even I don't know say it was like a small business gathering or a meeting, something

like that, and just say I was really, really hungry. If it were approaching midday, I'd say something like,

oh, hey guys, I think it's lunchtime soon.

Or if I were at someone's home or even in a workout studio and I arrived and from, say from either the snow outside or the hot weather outside and I went into the room and I was freezing because air conditioning is crazy sometimes am I right instead of saying oh can I turn the temperature up or

down based on how I was feeling instead I'd say oh it's really it's really cold in here

or it's kind of cold in here right or it or it's kind of warm in here. I was hinting

instead of outright asking. We do this when we're afraid to advocate for ourselves, when we're afraid to just

state our needs simply, knowing that the other person who's in control of whatever it is we're putting out there,

they can say yes or no. They have the right to say yes or no, and we have the right to ask.

I find that resentment builds up a lot over time when we hint a lot, hoping that

someone will read our minds or hoping someone will see us and someone will pluck us out of our desire, that place that feels

clear within us but that we don't communicate and go, oh I know exactly what you need,

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