Stop Faking Sleep to Avoid Sex (Let’s Talk About It)

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 26 May 2026

⏱️ 29 minutes

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In this livestream recorded on April 23, 2026, I’m diving into one of the most common and confusing issues in relationships: what happens when your sex life changes over time. We’re talking about desire mismatch, low libido, and why the “honeymoon phase” passion doesn’t stay the same forever(it’s completely normal). I also break down the real factors that impact sex drive, from stress and body image to emotional connection and communication, and how couples can start having honest conversations about intimacy again without blame or shame. This is about understanding your body, your partner, and how to rebuild connection in a more intentional way. Get 10% off of Promescent’s Pleasure Pack here: http://www.promescent.com/swe-pleasurepack ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 The Desire Discrepancy Nobody Talks About 01:19 Why Every Long-Term Relationship Hits This Wall 02:37 Why Stress, Body Image and Life Kill The Mood 04:29 Are People Actually Having the Sex They Want? 05:38 The Blood Flow Factor Nobody Talks About 07:12 Is Watching Romantic (Ethical) Porn Together Healthy? 10:44 The Case for Roleplay and Alter Egos 14:48 "My Wife Has Zero Sex Drive" The Most Common Question 17:55 Advice for a 35-Year-Old Starting Her Sexual Debut 19:24 Unlearning Shame from a Religious Background 22:02 Rewriting "Virginity" as Your Sexual Debut 23:30 Ask Yourself This Before Your Next Date Night Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	In every single relationship that I've come across has a similar scenario going on.
0:06.4	Whether they've been together two years or 20 years, when they met, the sex was incredible.
0:11.3	But now we've been together a while and there's so many other factors that go on in our lives
0:16.6	that are related to our sex life, right? Lives, what if you're stressed? What if you're worried about, you know, money or your job? Or what if you don't feel good in your body? Okay, so if you've been listening to this show for a while, you know I'm not about random sex toys or gimmicks. I'm about tools that actually support your pleasure, your communication, and your connection. Well, that's exactly why we created the shop, Sex with Emily store.
0:38.3	Everything in there is curated by me and my team. And these are products I trust. I recommend
0:43.1	to clients and would tell my friends about. I do tell my friends about. It's what I talk about all
0:47.2	the time. Whether you're exploring solo pleasure, looking to reconnect with a partner, or you
0:51.0	really just want something body safe and beginner friendly. We've organized it so you don't feel overwhelmed. People love the dame pillow for supported sex. The Magic Wand Waterproof. Oh my God, it's so good. Cray Vesper, massage candles, Joe flavored lube, wee vibe touch, clitoral vibrators. There's just so many things on there because pleasure shouldn't be confusing.
1:16.0	It should feel empowering. You can check it out at shop.sec withemly.com and find something that supports where you are right now or just click the link in the show notes. Also, keep an eye out for
1:21.0	curated collections coming soon. When was the last time you stopped and listened to your body?
1:26.5	Here's a Holland and Barrett ad break to do just that.
1:30.2	Go on.
1:31.3	Have a listen to your gut.
1:33.7	Is that a gurgle?
1:35.6	A rumble?
1:37.6	Is it straining after lunch?
1:40.1	Or is it saying...
1:41.5	You've got to show me love.
1:47.5	We know what your body's asking for.
1:50.2	In store online on the app.
1:52.7	Back your body, Holland and Barrett.
1:58.7	Okay, I'm here to talk to you about what the fuck is going on with people's fucking, to be honest.
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