Stop Explaining Yourself—The #1 Trick to Shut Down Gaslighting & Passive Aggression | Jefferson Fisher PT 2

Women of Impact

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🗓️ 6 March 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Lisa Bilyeu continues her conversation with Jefferson Fisher, diving deeper into the nuances of maintaining control in conversations while nurturing healthy relationships. Jefferson unravels the complexities of navigating emotionally charged discussions, emphasizing the significance of setting clear goals for each interaction. Together, they explore the manipulation tactics often present in dynamics with narcissists, and how the power of pausing can defuse potentially explosive situations. This episode tackles the intricate balance between expressing vulnerability and safeguarding it from being weaponized, offering practical frameworks to ensure clarity and understanding in your most important dialogues. With actionable insights on enhancing communication in both personal and professional spheres, Jefferson empowers listeners to take control of their narrative and communication style. Tune in to discover how intentional pauses, tone management, and strategic framing can transform your interactions, leaving you feeling more connected and understood. SHOWNOTES: 03:31 The Pitfalls of Reactionary Arguments 03:53 The Art of a Strategic Pause 04:21 Navigating Emotionally Charged Conversations 04:34 Secret Weapon: The Power of Pausing 04:58 Steps to Collect Your Mindset and Respond 05:27 Utilizing Long Pauses to Shift Dynamic and Power 06:32 The Role of Tone in Communication 06:43 Managing Control in Heated Discussions FOLLOW JEFFERSON FISHER: Website: jeffersonfisher.com Instagram: @jeffersonfisher Facebook: @jeffersonfisher CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Audible: Sign up for a free 30-day trial at https://audible.com/WOI Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Quince: Check out Quince: https://quince.com/woi OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co Netsuite: Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://NetSuite.com/women NPR Fresh Air: Tune into Fresh Air from NPR to hear some of the most insightful interviews anywhere—wherever you get your podcasts. ********************************************************************** Listening to Women of Impact on Amazon Music is about as easy as it gets. You can listen on the app, which is super freaking easy to navigate, or you can just ask my homie, Alexa. it's that simple. So if you're ready, my homie, to be a freaking badass, then listen and follow Women of Impact on Amazon Music. ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:55.6	with Jefferson Fisher. For way too long, we've thought, or we've been taught, that winning an
1:00.2	argument means being the loudest, the smartest, and getting the last word in. At least I thought,
1:05.7	well, that means I've got a voice if I speak up, if I'm the last person, but it never actually
1:10.4	got me to my goal.
1:11.6	So guess what?
1:12.6	The more you actually want to win an argument, the more you end up losing at that relationship.
1:17.6	That hit me hard when he said that to me.
1:19.6	And so in this part, we're breaking down the one trick that actually instantly stops an argument in his tracks without actually feeling like you're giving your power away.
1:28.3	We talk about how to set the boundaries that actually stick without needing to explain yourself
1:33.3	and why confident people don't actually talk more. They talk better.
1:39.3	This episode isn't about avoiding conflict, it's about owning your power in every single conversation
1:44.8	and every single scenario with any other human. So let's get right back in with Jefferson Fisher
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