Stop Entertaining the Wrong People: A Mindset Shift on Dating and Friendships You Need
Morning Rae
Allana Blumberg
4.3 • 525 Ratings
🗓️ 6 October 2025
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
#240. ✨ In your 20s, friendships and relationships can feel like a rollercoaster, but the truth is, so much of it comes down to your mindset. In this episode, Lan is diving into the shifts that will help you stop settling, set higher standards, and start attracting the right people into your life.
From friendships that come in waves to dating patterns that keep repeating, she'll talk about how to set intentions, break cycles, and show up as the version of yourself that naturally attracts the love and connections you actually deserve.
Whether you’re navigating hot-and-cold friends, breadcrumbing situationships, or just trying to figure out what kind of partner you want, this episode is your reminder to put yourself first, lead with intention, and build relationships that match your energy. 💌
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| 0:34.1 | Hello, good morning and welcome back or welcome to Morning Ray. I'm your host, Lan, or Alana. |
| 0:39.1 | And today's episode is all about your mindsets and intentions and how important they are when it comes to relationships, whether it's a romantic relationship, a platonic relationship, a work relationship, familial, whatever it is, your intentions and these |
| 0:57.7 | mindset shifts are the key to building and forming the relationships that you want, you desire, |
| 1:04.6 | you need, you crave. I think the minute I started to view myself and the way I interacted with |
| 1:09.8 | others and the way I focused on building |
| 1:12.8 | my relationships with other people. |
| 1:15.0 | In this way is when I finally started to feel that I was having friendships and relationships |
| 1:22.0 | with those around me that lined up and matched what I was truly looking for. Like I finally felt like I |
| 1:29.9 | had friends where I was in a healthy relationship with them that we met each other where we wanted |
| 1:35.4 | to be met and really fostered a healthy, stable relationship with one another. And also when it |
| 1:42.6 | came to dating, I think embodying this mindset really |
| 1:46.0 | allowed me to be able to find the type of person I was looking to build a relationship with to not, |
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