Stop Arguing With Narcissists — Do This Instead

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Civility Media

Self-improvement, Relationships, Society & Culture, Education

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🗓️ 3 February 2026

⏱️ 29 minutes

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In this episode, I break down the one sentence a narcissist can’t argue with — and why most conversations with manipulative people turn into exhausting endurance tests. You’ll learn why logic never works, how narcissists weaponize your emotions, and the simple shift that helps you regain control instead of getting drained. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling frustrated, confused, or completely worn out, this episode will change how you handle it. Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 20% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. Mill. Try risk-free for 90 days and get $75 off at https://www.mill.com/jefferson and use code JEFFERSON at checkout. ZocDoc. https://zocdoc.com/jefferson to find and instantly book a doctor you love today. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Order my new book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTok Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	There is one sentence that a narcissist can never argue with. Today on the Jefferson Fisher podcast,
0:07.3	there are so many people that tell you what not to say to a narcissist. Here on this podcast, I'm going to
0:13.4	tell you what to say when this happens. And I want to make sure you know there are lots of people
0:19.3	who exhibit narcissistic traits tendencies behaviors you
0:22.5	name it in this episode today i want to speak to you to give you something that you can use
0:27.4	because you and i both know narcissists they don't lose arguments that's just not a thing they don't
0:31.7	win them either they just exhaust them and in exchange they exhaust you so here's how how to handle it. Let's go. Welcome to the
0:40.3	Jefferson Fisher podcast for I'm on a mission to make your next conversation, the one that changes everything.
0:45.3	If you enjoy learning tips and tools to improve your communication, I'm going to ask that wherever you're listening, press subscribe or a like or a heart or a follow or a comment.
0:53.3	It really really makes a difference
0:54.9	not only to me but also to my family and in exchange my promises that I'm going to
0:59.4	to my best of my ability make you a better communicator if you subscribe and listen to these
1:04.6	episodes if you're watching right now you know that I am in the car why because
1:09.2	there's something called snow days in the world. And
1:14.0	our town is not equipped for snowy roads, icy roads. And they have continued to cancel school.
1:21.9	What was thought going to be just two days ended up being a whole week. And now we've had
1:26.4	the weekend, Sunday and we
1:28.6	think okay great school's going to be back in session we're going to get back to normal psych
1:32.8	they canceled it Monday so I'm here in the car because the kids are doing their thing it's been
1:38.4	great and also for parents you know it's it's. It's, it's Lord of the Flies.
1:44.8	It's crazy.
1:45.7	It's mayhem.
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