Steve Herz | Why Critical Feedback is Important and How to Ask for It

The Art of Charm

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4.7 • 11K Ratings

🗓️ 20 July 2020

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

In today’s episode, we cover critical feedback and how to ask for it with Steve Herz. Steve is President of The Montag Group, a sports and entertainment talent and marketing consultancy, and a career advisor to CEOs, lawyers, entrepreneurs, and young professionals. Critical feedback is important for our growth, but asking for it and receiving it can be challenging because people who care about us are generally hesitant to tell us anything negative about ourselves, so what can we do to get the feedback we need to improve? What to Listen For Why is critical feedback important to our growth and success, and how can we get better at receiving it? What can you do to get the feedback you need to grow in a culture where people seem to coddle each other out of fear of how you might respond to critical feedback? How do you ask for feedback in such a way that allows people to feel comfortable offering critical feedback rather than just saying something to make you feel good? How much of your success is determined by your proficiency versus your ability to connect with others? What steps can you take today to improve your ability to effectively communicate and connect with others so you don’t get passed up on job opportunities and promotions? What is the 360 review and how can it save you from ending up in terrible situations? Why is warmth important in building relationships and why can your aversion to it lead to failure in life? What can you do to work on your humility? How do energy and warmth work together when you are interacting with others, and what can you do to improve both while staying true to who you are? Critical feedback is important because you only have your perspective on what you are doing. So if you are always doing something incorrect while you believe it to be correct, how are you going to correct what you’re doing wrong if no one tells you. Unfortunately, the people who know us best will likely be hesitant to tell us when we’re doing something wrong out of fear of confrontation, or hurting our feelings, or just wanting to avoid a potentially awkward situation. This means we must make it easy and comfortable for the people who care about us to give us the feedback we need to be our best selves. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Whether you’re communicating with your team online or working on a project, Grammarly is the digital writing tool you can always rely on to get your message across clearly and effectively, across mobile and desktop platforms. Get 20% off Grammarly Premium when you sign up at grammarly.com/charm. Resources from this Episode Don’t Take Yes for an Answer by Steve Herz Steve Herz’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

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0:00.0	You know, you have to communicate in a way that's consistent with your words.
0:04.1	I think when you say something and you're very self-assured and you're looking into the person's
0:08.7	eyes and saying, look, this is what's best for you. I'm telling you, that's a level of authority.
0:14.8	The third thing is, I talked about this detachment, is that you can't be married to the outcome
0:19.6	that you want. This is not your outcome. It's their outcome.
0:24.8	Welcome back to the Articharm podcast. I'm AJ.
0:27.8	And I'm Johnny. This is show where driven introverts win at work, love, and life by developing
0:33.6	the right social skills. Now, if you're new to the show, welcome. And thank you for checking
0:37.9	us out. If you dig this show, tell your friends and share what you learned.
0:41.8	Feel like you're on the edge of success. Do you feel like you're not living up to the expectations
0:47.1	you have for yourself? Ready to unlock your true potential with better relationships?
0:52.4	Well, if you're on our newsletter, you heard the news.
0:55.6	And if not, you might want to check out unlockyourxfactor.com.
1:00.9	If you're ready to accelerate your career and relationships to break free from regret,
1:06.2	then pause this podcast and go watch our free training at unlockyourxfactor.com.
1:12.4	All right. If you're back for the training, thanks for tuning in. Today, we're speaking with Steve
1:17.5	Hurts. Steve has been working with the world's top media personalities, athletes, and CEOs for
1:22.9	almost three decades. And he's a talent agent whose job it is to hand out the hard truths
1:28.3	so that his clients can work on their blind spots that are holding them back. His book don't take
1:34.0	yes for an answer just came out. And the premise of this book is that if you want to excel in life,
1:38.8	you have to stop taking yes for an answer. A lack of honest feedback is what's holding you back.
1:44.8	And it describes a whole set of techniques to work on your connection and communication skills.
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