Stay Curious About Your Spouse
Focus on the Family Strengthening Marriage Podcast
Focus on the Family
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🗓️ 16 October 2025
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
How do you stay curious about your spouse, even if you've been married for a long time? Dr. Bob Paul and Tara Lalonde speak to Jim Daly about why there's always something new to learn about your mate. Also, John talks with Erin Smalley about how a couple can regain curiosity, even if you've lost that romantic spark.
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| 0:00.0 | God is at work and he's calling his people to rise in truth. Truth Rising is a powerful new documentary from Focus on the Family and the Colson Center. See how ordinary Christians choose courage in a culture that needs truth. Watch Truth Rising today and find out how you can become an agent of restoration and hope. |
| 0:24.1 | Visit truthrising.com today. That's truthrising.com. |
| 0:30.9 | When I first saw my wife in a church parking lot many, many years ago, I was intrigued. |
| 0:41.0 | She just seemed to have this confidence and this curiosity. |
| 0:45.9 | And I've been kind of following the Dina's story unpacked for over 40 years now. |
| 0:50.5 | She is just an ever-changing person in terms of some of her interests and a never-wavering |
| 0:56.9 | heart for the Lord. Well, I'm John Fuller, joined by Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife, Aaron. They |
| 1:02.0 | lead the marriage team here at the ministry, and we're going to be talking about differences and about |
| 1:07.1 | curiosity in the relationship. Let's begin with a clip from Focus on the Family with Jim |
| 1:12.8 | Daly. Jim spoke with Dr. Bob Paul and Tara Lalonde from our Hope Restored outreach, and they talked |
| 1:19.6 | about why curiosity is a really necessary ingredient for a healthy marriage. Gary Thomas and his |
| 1:26.0 | great book on marriage, and of course we interviewed him. He's a good friend of the ministry, and great book on marriage. And of course, we interviewed him. |
| 1:28.3 | He's a good friend of the ministry. And we got into this. And he said, you know, it's not |
| 1:33.9 | common for us as a couple to know that what marriage is about is about making us more like Christ, |
| 1:41.4 | selfless. Right. And rubbing off those edges. |
| 1:45.7 | And I think about that a lot because if that's part of the institution of marriage that |
| 1:50.4 | God created for us to become more like him in that institution of marriage, to become more |
| 1:55.9 | selfless, that means we have to not be selfish. |
| 2:00.8 | And man, are we selfish in our relationship? |
| 2:04.3 | Probably the most selfish relationship we have is with our spouse in different ways |
| 2:08.4 | until you're getting healthier and healthier. |
| 2:11.5 | And then you realize, you know, when the Lord said to men, lay your life down for your wife. |
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