Welcome to our Start Your Entence Podcast. I'm Sheila from the To Love Honor and Vacuum

blog where we like to talk about how to make marriage into a passionate

adventure and not just a giant to do list. Plus we talk about sex a lot, let's face it.

And because of that, a lot of guys listening to guys like sex okay.

So the last Thursday of every month I like to do a guys addition of our podcast.

We call it Star Your Engines.

I bring my husband Keith on

to talk as well and today I have a question for us are men from Mars and women from

Venus yeah that's what I was talking about in the blog post yesterday, right?

Yes, is, is, are we really so different?

And how much do these differences matter?

So we have a question that was sent in from a guy that I thought we could just use to kind of jumpstart this conversation.

So Keith, you want to read it for us?

Yeah, sure, okay. Here's what he writes.

As a man, I don't want to read a book about how to love my wife, written by a man.

If men could figure it out, I wouldn't need the book.

All these marriage books written by men are helpful to understand myself, but are woefully inadequate when addressing my wife.

I'm reading your book, Nine Thoughts, because I didn't realize it was written for wives,

but I'm learning a ton anyway, except what I want want to know which is how to love my wife.

What I've recognized is that I have been loving my wife like a guy would want to be loved and

surprisingly it's not working. But it's taking me 18 years to figure out what I was doing wrong.

Now I need help figure out how to do it right and I'm stumped. I love your perspective because it's so similar to my wife's

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