In the Christian community we hear the phrase find your identity in Christ.

But how can you practically encourage your children to do that to grow in their faith?

I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Danny Werta who heads up our parenting team and here's

Janelle Brightenstein speaking with focus on the family president Jim Daly and me about the need

all of us have for Christ.

You reference in the book Soul Wholes.

How did you see that in your daughter's life?

And what is a soul whole? That's a great question. It's connected to

kind of what I was saying earlier about those those lies. Blaze Pascal a

famous philosopher said that we have a God-shaped hole inside of us all of us and it

becomes a vacuum it sucks in things to try to plug that hole when God's not in it

and I tend to think that each one of us have different soul holes and it may be different based on, for example,

whether you grew up in the Asian community or the African community or what your

past has been, like we all have different soul holes for my daughter

she wasn't sleeping at night and we were trying to figure out rather than just

trying to I guess throw her some melatonin and some Valerian roots you know we

wanted to first figure out what was going on underneath and it turned out through some long conversations that she was having some performance anxiety and some perfectionism and a desire to really not

be ostracized by her friends and it was literally making her lose sleep at night.

And so those identifying those soul holes and that connection to her identity actually

helped us to fix the root of the problem rather just put a band-aid on it.

And I think you're making that the first chapter of your book is really critical because I think it is the foundation for everything if your identity as a child is

Growing in Christ that is critical by the time you're in high school to give you the strength you need against a culture that will rip you apart like a lion.

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