Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Music power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliati. Welcome to love and abuse. All the information on this show is meant for educational

purposes only. Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being.

And always pick your battles wisely.

And there was a battle that somebody went through that I'm going to share with you.

This person wrote and said,

Dear Paul, like many other people, I found your podcast and workbook immensely useful to me

to help me understand what happened during my relationship, which recently ended. However, one thing that I

continue to struggle with is that in my case, the emotional abuser left me in a harsh way,

just as we were planning some life commitments together. I haven't found much in the way of

information on this scenario where the abuser decides to

leave.

I knew during the relationship that his behaviors were wrong, but I understood that he was willing

to work on them.

The relationship ultimately imploded after we saw a relationship counselor.

I wanted to discuss how we felt about the first appointment, and he told me,

albeit somewhat reluctantly, that I was free to book another appointment for us, but we cannot

discuss the matter outside of appointments. I asked a further relationship question, and this

triggered a rage attack, and the subsequent end of the relationship.

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