SOG EP 1657 BONUS: Brain Experts: "This Causes Trauma Bonding!" Use These Strategies to Heal!

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 893 Ratings

🗓️ 28 August 2024

⏱️ 10 minutes

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"The reason why I was so emotionally disconnected, that was real for me in my relationships. It was because I was emotionally disconnected from myself." -Dr. Nicole LePera Dr. Nicole LePera, known as "The Holistic Psychologist," takes us on a riveting journey through the maze of trauma bonding and emotional disconnection. With raw honesty, she unveils her personal struggles, from being labeled "emotionally unavailable" in her first relationship to the eye-opening moments in her psychoanalytic training. Dr. LePera's candid revelations about her own patterns of disconnection offer a mirror for listeners to examine their own relationship dynamics, challenging us to confront the uncomfortable truths about our emotional landscape. In this transformative conversation, Dr. LePera shares powerful insights on breaking free from destructive relationship cycles. She introduces practical strategies for cultivating self-awareness and emotional reconnection, emphasizing the daily commitment required to heal our hearts and nervous systems. Her actionable advice on checking in with ourselves and prioritizing self-attunement provides a roadmap for anyone struggling with emotional unavailability or feeling "alone in a crowded room." You will gain invaluable tools to foster deeper connections, both with themselves and others, paving the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

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0:00.0	My name is Louis House. Thanks so much for being here. I want to remind you about the
0:03.9	Summit of Greatness, our annual conference happening this September in Los Angeles.
0:08.8	With David Goggins, Dr. Jodispenza, and many more incredible speakers and performers.
0:14.0	There will be so many live attendees there that you can meet with, you can network with, and you can help transform your life.
0:21.0	I can't wait to see you at the Summit of Greatness here in Los Angeles.
0:27.0	Hi my name is Lewis House and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
0:39.2	When two people have traumatic nervous systems or who haven't healed their heart or their
0:46.9	nervous system and they are in a relationship and neither of them know how to
0:50.7	regulate their emotions. What tends to happen in that relationship if they of conflict of endless disconnection of endless coping strategies that we've learned.
1:06.5	We rely on the things that we do, whether it's using substances or distracting ourselves
1:11.4	by scrolling endlessly online.
1:14.0	We are then the living byproduct.
1:16.6	Sometimes it's in these explosive cycles of conflict.
1:19.4	I call this patterning that I think is pretty common in most relationships.
1:24.0	I know Lolly and I when we began our relationship now near a decade ago,
1:27.8	we were very much in a dysfunctional patterning
1:30.3	of what I call trauma bonding.
1:32.0	Really? Absolutely. What is trauma bonding? call trauma bonding. Really?
1:33.0	What is trauma bonding?
1:34.0	So trauma bonding, again, I like to provide a more expansive definition than I think some could define it online,
1:40.0	but it's all of those dysfunctional habits and patterns that, again, once kept us safe in childhood,
1:46.4	that we continue to recreate, whether it's these cycles of explosive conflict, maybe that some
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