Soft Power: Moving from You and Me to Us

Sounds True: Insights at the Edge

Tami Simon

Spirituality, Religion & Spirituality

4.6 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 16 August 2022

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Summary

In this podcast, Sounds True founder Tami Simon speaks with "the relationship turnaround guy" and bestselling author Terry Real about: the origins of his two-day relationship intervention; the groundbreaking—and rule-breaking—approach of Relational Life Therapy; dealing with shame and grandiosity, and the contempt underlying both; the skill of "joining through the truth"; what healthy self-esteem looks like; why "there's nothing that harshness does that loving firmness doesn't do better"; speaking to and from the mature, wise adult instead of the adaptive, wounded child; relational mindfulness; recognizing your tendency toward "fight, flight, freeze, or fix"; our toxic culture of individualism and the shift to "soft power"; why an invitation works a lot better than a complaint; the essential rhythm of relationships: harmony, rupture, and repair; honoring the ecological system of your relationship while having your individual needs met; and more.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to Insights at the Edge, produced by SoundsTrue.
0:05.4	My name is Tammy Simon, I'm the founder of SoundsTrue, and I'd love to take a moment
0:10.2	to introduce you to the SoundsTrue Foundation.
0:13.6	The goal of the SoundsTrue Foundation is to provide access and eliminate financial barriers
0:20.3	to transformational education and resources, such as teachings and trainings on mindfulness,
0:27.8	emotional awareness and self-compassion.
0:31.2	If you'd like to learn more and join with us in our efforts, please visit SoundsTrueFoundation.org.
0:42.5	In this episode of Insights at the Edge, my guest is Terry Riel.
0:47.3	Terry is an internationally recognized family therapist and the best-selling author of
0:53.3	I don't want to talk about it, overcoming the secret legacy of male depression, along
0:59.4	with a book called The New Rules of Marriage and a brand new book Us, Getting Past You
1:07.2	and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.
1:11.2	With SoundsTrue, Terry's the author of a highly acclaimed and loved, I hear so much positive
1:17.9	feedback from so many people about this series.
1:21.3	It's called Fierce Intimacy, standing up to one another with love.
1:27.7	I absolutely love talking with Terry Riel, I'll tell you why.
1:33.2	He gets me off my, I know I'm right in this relationship position and instead to a place
1:39.8	of, you know, I'm going to figure out what works for us.
1:45.2	Here's my conversation with Terry Riel.
1:51.7	Terry, I'm so happy to have this chance to be with you and to talk about your new book
1:56.6	Us, A New York Times Best Seller.
1:59.0	I'm excited.
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