So you've been dumped.

I'm so sorry.

That must be really shitty.

Honestly, I've been there, man.

It's a crappy thing to experience because being dumped by a man takes away your ability to dump him.

And that's like your power being taken away but also jokes

aside I think that being dumped from a man dumped by a man is quite triggering because usually by the

time a man dumps you you've probably been overcompensating because your spirit knows that this is coming

and you don't want it to happen so you're being extra nice and like you're trying to seek more reassurance and you're coming

across more insecure and that just gives him more of a reason to get rid of you.

Because one thing that gives men the ickick even though they're not going to say it but I've seen

this happen time and time again and I can feel it when it's happening men get the ick when

you need too much reassurance from them like it's one thing needing like a little bit of

reassurance from your partner.

Maybe like you're just in a very rough patch in your life and what you're struggling with

has just led to you feeling doubtful about yourself.

It's okay to just need some reassurance and support from your male partner.

But I think where it enters territory of the ick for that man

is when you need the kind of reassurance that you're supposed to give yourself.

So that's like you needing him to tell you how beautiful you are.

You needing him to make you feel validated and wanted. I think it's a tricky line though,

because when I think about a scenario where a woman would need that kind of reassurance, like for

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