Hi everybody. Thanks for tuning into the women's dating and confidence podcast. Today I'm going to be

talking about slowing down to speed things up. So before we get started today, did you know that you can send me

your dating questions and I will create a podcast for you? It's free and anonymous and it's specific

to your situation and it really helps out the other women who are going through the same thing

right now and really need some advice

on that situation. So if you have a question, go ahead and check out the show notes. There's

going to be a link there and I will create a podcast for you. I just want to apologize in advance

if it's kind of noisy in the background because it's raining here in California, so the microphone might be

picking some of that up. So anyways, let's talk about slowing down to speed things up. So this

episode is for you if you feel like you give off sort of a desperate vibe. And the thing is, the most attractive traits to men are confidence,

certainty, and just a general feeling of being relaxed. And the opposite of that is feeling

desperate, insecure, and scarce. And that combination makes you try to speed things up

because you feel scarce. So you feel like this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. So you have to

jump on it and make sure it doesn't slip out of your hands. You feel insecure and you're not

sure if you can really maintain this opportunity

that you got. So you're not sure if you can really keep the awesome guy that you attracted. And

you don't feel certain. You feel really insecure and worried about the future and what might

happen. And generally the opposite of feeling

relaxed. So this combination of feelings causes you to behave in a really unattractive way when

you're dating somebody. And initially, it might actually seem good. So a lot of times I see women speed things up really fast in the

beginning and the guy is actually into it. But more often than not, and I would say like 95% of the

time, when you speed things up to a level where it's not natural and it's coming from that place of just wanting

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