My brother wants me to pay for his wedding, but doesn't want me involved.

Am I the jerk for what I did?

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to turn on notifications. I'm a 31-year-old female and I have a brother who's 29.

He's getting married next year. We lost our mom in 2012 and our dad in 2016.

We are each other's only living relatives.

Have a good job. I earn a lot of money around 150 pounds a year.

My brother also has a good job, but doesn't earn anywhere near that.

Somewhere around 35,000 pounds. We were raised to always look after each other and share.

My partner and I are child-free. Over the years, I have paid for my brother's

master's degree, paid the down payment on his house,

our parents rented, so there is no family home. I will also be paying for my future sister-in-law

who's 26 and my brother to have future rounds of IVF, in vitro fertilization.

My sister-in-law works part-time and earns about 15,000 a year. Her parents are not well off.

So, my brother asked if I could contribute to the cost of the wedding.

I said that I would pay for it as it is small with 100 guests and set up a wedding account for them

into which I put 25,000 pounds, which they both have access to.

My sister-in-law's entire family are involved as bridesmaids and groomsmen.

My husband and I are guests. My brother and sister-in-law have been

going around venues with her family and I got emailed the cost if it's selected.

I told my brother I don't mind paying for the wedding but I feel really

weird that everyone else has involved in the decision and I'm just involved with paying.

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