Signs It's a Trauma Bond
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Lisa A. Romano
4.8 • 806 Ratings
🗓️ 27 February 2023
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
Trauma bonds occur in narcissistic relationships. Intermittent validation, invalidation, gaslighting, and isolation are ways in which trauma bonds occur. Narcissists will draw a target in with flattery and mirroring and eventually begin to devalue them through mind games like gaslighting. Signs of a trauma bond are often deflected by a victim of narcissistic abuse, making it challenging to end toxic relationships. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, explains the ins and outs of trauma bonding.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast. |
| 0:06.0 | My name is Lisa A. Romano. |
| 0:08.0 | I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse. |
| 0:16.0 | I am a believer in the power of an organized mind. |
| 0:20.0 | My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness rather |
| 0:25.8 | than living a reactive life. |
| 0:28.4 | May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope as you |
| 0:33.5 | spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast. |
| 0:38.9 | So let's break down what a trauma bond is. |
| 0:41.5 | One day things are really good and the next day things are really bad. |
| 0:45.4 | And what happens is you don't even realize that you're being pulled into an abusive cycle. |
| 0:50.2 | It's important that you recognize that there's this intermittent validation or inconsistent |
| 0:56.5 | validation over time. |
| 0:58.6 | And so what's happening? |
| 1:00.0 | What's happening is you're being primed to seek validation and you're also being primed |
| 1:05.6 | to fear a negative outcome. |
| 1:08.0 | This is what I call the codependent hamster's wheel. |
| 1:10.8 | What happens in an abusive |
| 1:12.2 | relationship is that there are two things that are going on primarily. A, you seek validation, |
| 1:18.6 | and this is where you're getting your sense of pleasure from. Your mind is being primed to think |
| 1:23.2 | it's good to get validation. So you're associating pleasure with that. But on the flip side of that, you're associating pleasure with that but on the flip |
| 1:28.1 | side of that you're associating pain with a negative outcome and so if you're |
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