Shut Up Therapist & How to Destroy a Relationship
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.5 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 16 March 2026
⏱️ 60 minutes
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00:00 Should I tell my therapist they talk too much?
17:08 Should I avoid media spoilers while talking to my therapist?
22:37 How can you ruin a relationship?
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| 0:00.0 | So, Bob, we have some emails here, some good ones, some juicy ones. |
| 0:04.9 | Okay. |
| 0:05.8 | I say, let's squeeze some juice. |
| 0:08.1 | This first email has the title, why won't my therapist shut up? |
| 0:13.7 | Are they writing about me? |
| 0:16.3 | Annual, super long-term anonymous patron, they write in and say, hey, kirk i've been with my therapist for over a year |
| 0:23.9 | and i love her but she self-discloses to the point of it derailing our sessions and i'm really sick of it |
| 0:30.2 | she sometimes says that she talks too much and she laughs about it so i don't know how helpful it would |
| 0:36.4 | be for me to bring it up. |
| 0:38.2 | She'll even talk over me when I try to interrupt her very lengthy anecdotes. |
| 0:43.6 | A lot of her sharing seems to stem from this implication that she and I are just so similar, |
| 0:49.4 | which irritates me because enmeshment is one of the major issues in my family. |
| 0:56.4 | I want to tell her that her unchecked countertransference is inhibiting our relationship, but I don't want her to hate me. |
| 1:02.7 | I feel truly loved by her and don't want her to reject me. She comes off as very sensitive, |
| 1:10.1 | and I'm afraid she'll be closed off if I don't act like her friend. |
| 1:14.8 | How would you handle it? |
| 1:16.6 | By the way, I've been listening to the podcast for 12 years now. |
| 1:20.1 | No. |
| 1:20.4 | End of email. |
| 1:21.7 | 12 years. |
| 1:22.6 | So since 2014, which strangely was six years into the podcast already. |
| 1:29.9 | Yeah, right. |
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