Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to another episode of love and abuse. Just a reminder, everything in this show is meant

for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being.

And I should add to this disclaimer, always pick your battles wisely.

I think I'll add that to future disclaimers because, as you know, some abusive people can get more abusive, can get more aggressive.

And hopefully you're not dealing with that.

But I've heard from some people that say, you know, you should probably warn people

that the abusive person, they could get worse and worse, and some of them can be violent.

So I'm going to add that.

Always pick your battles wisely.

And I think that's important with anything nowadays.

Anyone that you deal with, you want to make sure that you're capable of being able

to handle the situation.

You know, I am a 6'foot-four guy, and if anyone gave me grief, I could probably

handle myself pretty well, even against a bigger guy because I'm just a big guy.

But there are people out there that maybe don't feel so comfortable being able to handle themselves in certain situations if something were to happen.

Not that I want anything to happen, and I certainly don't want anything to happen to you.

But it is important to just be aware that things can happen.

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