The Fertia.

So should you go to therapy before marriage?

Now, we're talking about couples therapy before marriage?

No, no, like individual therapy.

And I guess it would probably translate into couples therapy as well because now I'm surveying a lot of people about therapy and relationships and what could lead to the start of a healthy foundation in a relationship,

and also what can also lead

to the healthy start of a marriage.

And a friend of mine who's newly engaged,

they're like, they just got engaged engaged and she's kind of a little bit

concerned because the way they started off their relationship, he came to her like in

a healed space, like typically people trauma bond when they start dating and they share each other

trauma is like oh you got trauma too I got trauma too hey we might love each other

whereas with this case he's like no no I've I've been going to therapy and he like often talked about therapy

And she's like this is unusual for a guy to talk about going to therapy a lot and talking about how he's handling his problems and she had never gone to therapy at all and he encouraged her but something was I guess holding her back

and she was didn't see the need to go to therapy she's like I'm okay I'm fine you know like it's not the end of the world is she

Some days

Yeah, some days, but yeah some days, but now that they're engaged she started to second think everything.

If I'm going to be married to this man for possibly the rest of my life,

and I know that he's come from a place of like this mental health, this emotional intelligence of healing that he has and she's never

even attempted it, even though it's not something that he said was a deal breaker, not like

you have to go to therapy you have to do this he

never said that but now she's starting to question for the foundation and a clean

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