Hey, hey, how are you? How you doing? Today we're going to be talking about a question I get often,

which is should you throw away your partner's drugs or alcohol or pornography when you find it?

A lot of us have come across their secret stashes in our homes.

Oftentimes, their closet, somewhere in their closet, or your garage.

That's a very common place under the mattresses.

Now, pornography, when we say throw out pornography, I'm thinking of like the old school. Remember

like Playboy or Penthouse or whatever? I don't even know if anyone reads those things anymore.

Pornography is so available everywhere that, you know, I'm just saying like maybe you go into their computer and delete their accounts.

Should we do that with their pornography, right? Should we be browsing through their computer

histories to look that up? So when we love someone suffering from addiction, it can be really,

really hard to know if we should throw away their alcohol or substance of choice

or whether we should just let it be. And if we're honest, that's a really hard decision to make.

We've heard from many women in our community that just seeing a bottle or a beer can or bong

or a joint or whatever pornography site, it can be incredibly triggering.

And our knee-jerk reaction is to dump it down the drain or take the drugs and flush them down the toilet and that's normal

I did that for a really long time but when we have drugs or alcohol or pornography that's being

used in our home under our roof it can make us feel really unsafe, right? We feel unsafe in our own environment.

And then we start to ask ourselves, well, is there a place where we can feel safe?

And then when we do find the bottles of liquor, I don't know about you, but I used to mark the bottles back when my ex-husband was still trying to convince me he didn't have a problem.

One of my genius ways of trying to get him to admit that he did was I would secretly mark the bottle of vodka that he had hidden and then try to catch him when the bottle went down to prove that it was unhealthy and not normal to drink that much.

Right.

It was just one of my ways that I was trying to help him get sober

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