The issue is how you fight, not whether you fight. You got to have empathy. Every couple fights. The real question is whether those fights are hurting your marriage or helping it grow. In today's episode, we're joined by Dr. Les Parrott, clinical psychologist, bestselling relationship expert, author of saving your marriage before it starts, co-creator of E-Harmony Marriage, and co-author with Dr. Gary Chapman, of the love

language that matters most.

We talk about the good fights versus the bad fights and why small conflicts feel so different

when your spouse feels deeply loved.

And how filling your partner's love tank can change the emotional atmosphere of your

whole relationship.

On to the interview.

Dr. Parrott, welcome to the podcast.

Thanks so much for joining us today.

Well, thanks you guys.

Honor to be with you.

We've valued your work for many years, and we're really thankful.

You and your wife have contributed so much to our field and have helped so many couples over the decades.

And today we're excited to dive into the good fight.

Yeah, because we know that couples tend to fight and it's not always good.

So what we're wanting to do is bring a little bit of clarity and bring an expert on to help us with our arguments.

Yeah, so some fights can be good.

Talk to us about the distinction there between fights that can really help us and

fights that hinder us.

Yeah, well, there's definitely a difference between a good fight and a bad fight.

That's the truth.

But before we even jump into this, I want to give something to your audience that's totally for free and they're going to appreciate it.

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