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Eva, what can I help you with?

Hi, I was hoping just for a quick answer.

I've been dating someone for about a month and I found out that he in the past has gone to strip clubs and he takes people from work.

He's the director of his company and I was wondering if it was wrong of me to tell him that I don't want him to do that anymore.

I'll answer your question.

Nobody gives a damn what you like. He's entitled to do whatever he wants.

You then can observe what he does and decide whether or not you want to date him, but you have no right in the universe to tell him to change. You have every responsibility in the universe to make a good choice in a man.

And if this is offensive and not the level of character you wish to have in a boyfriend or a husband, then you ditch him, but you don't try to manipulate him or threaten him or tell him to change.

Why do women do this?

Why?

Don't you know you're supposed to discern whether he's a keeper?

Not to decide you like his hairdo, so you got to change your behavior?

Great.

You have no right to tell him anything about how you feel about what he does in order to have him stop. No right at all.

Okay. All right. Thank you.

You don't have any questions about what I've just said.

All I can do is tell him how I feel about it and if he wants to stop, he can stop, right? Is that wrong?

No. Yeah. I think it's wrong.

I think I won't be dating you anymore. I find it offensive that this is how you entertain yourself and friends.

And if he says, I'll stop, I wouldn't trust it.

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