Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. I have asked my friend Deborah Doak,

author of High Conflict Divorce for Women, Your guide to coping skills and learning strategies for all

stages of divorce, to talk about this phase that women are in where they're wondering if they

should prepare for divorce, especially if they don't know if their husband's going to change or not.

And we're going to talk about three things to consider when you're considering divorce.

Number one, get educated considering divorce. Number one,

get educated about divorce. Number two, profile your husband so you know what his character is.

And number three, find the right emotional support. Here are some signs that you might not need to prepare for divorce. If your husband is kind, if he's never been

abusive, if he is honest, signs that you would need to prepare for divorce, maybe that he's

inconsistent, or that his actions don't match his words, or he lacks accountability or

responsibility, or that you find that he's having an affair or that he's manipulating you.

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