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Shrink For The Shy Guy

Should I Plan Conversation Ahead Of Time?

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Careers, Business, Self-improvement, Education

4.8649 Ratings

🗓️ 2 May 2016

⏱️ 6 minutes

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Summary

Do you sit around playing conversations in your head before you have them?

 

Trying to think of what you might say to someone before that conversation actually takes place?

 

The question from today's writer is should I do this, should I continue to plan a conversation before I have them or am I training my brain to have them and should not?

Is this creating a pattern that I need to break?

 

Or am I headed in the right direction for freeing myself from social confidence.

 

Find out Dr. Aziz's answers to this great question on if you should plan your conversations  ahead of time.

 

 

Transcript

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0:00.0

And now it's time to Ask the Shrink.

0:07.0

Hey, Dr. Aziz here and welcome to a bonus segment of Ask the Shrink.

0:13.0

We got a bunch of questions in and I wanted to be able to get to them before the next upcoming episode.

0:19.0

So I'm going to start doing little short bonuses here where I

0:21.9

answer some of your questions. So today's question is from Ash. And Ash says, hello Dr. Z's. I hope

0:28.8

you're doing well. I just want to update you with my progress. I guess he's reading the solution

0:34.4

to social anxiety. It says the book is amazing. Very well written.

0:37.8

Good real life examples and love the shy quotes.

0:41.0

I'm currently in Chapter 7, which is all about accepting yourself.

0:44.4

And I can relate to so many of your stories.

0:47.3

And he goes on to share about how much he's getting from the book.

0:49.7

So that's awesome, Ash.

0:50.7

I'm really glad to hear that, that you are diving into that book because that book is

0:54.3

is really powerful and will really help you step by step get to where you need to go um so

1:02.0

here's his question while at work in my cubicle i catch myself constantly thinking what should

1:09.1

i say to my coworkers something funny or witty,

1:13.3

while I'm walking out to go to the restroom or to the break room. I think I want to do this

1:18.0

to get attention and make my presence with my team members. That way, I am engaged in some

1:23.0

conversation and people won't say, he's so quiet, which is funny because that was the topic of this last

1:29.0

week's episode. Why are you so quiet? So some days I pre-think what I will say tomorrow and go

1:36.0

prepared, like some story of me that I want to share or something funny to say to someone.

1:40.6

Is this a good habit? Should I continue doing this? Or am I training my brain in a way that I should not?

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