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Try and 1-11 Lucy. Welcome to the program. Hi. Hi. What can I help you with? Hi. I was just wondering if I get some advice. My husband was deployed and he sort of kind of disconnecting from me not giving. He was deployed.

He was deployed when to where and for how long please give me flesh this out a bit. Okay. Okay. He was deployed. It was overseas.

In the Middle East or Japan or Asia. Yeah. Out there in Asia. I don't know exactly where they all went, but they went all around the Pacific Ocean.

And was it about Navy? Yes, Navy. It was about six months. And I'm kind of disconnected and just kind of started to seem like he wasn't as interested in me and the kids lack of communication.

And then I kind of put together he was coming close to the female coworker. And so I asked him about that a few times and he always kind of just brushed it off.

Well, then when you got home. A couple of months ago, I noticed he was.

He was just to the acting more normal with me, but he just wouldn't answer the questions that I had still about the female coworker. And then I found some in his bags. I found some suspicious things, a couple like some underwear.

And then. Underwear. It's unusual for your husband to wear underwear. Well, I see a female underwear. Well, it would have been nice if you had said female underwear. Yeah. Okay.

Yeah. All right.

Well, did you pick up the female under ma'am? I get stunned when women call me just like you and say I found this, this and this. So they have actual physical proof of what is happening.

And instead of going immediately to the husband and saying underwear, blue pills, whatever, we got to talk about this marriage.

They'll just say nothing and then call me. Yeah. And say nothing and just call me and say nothing and just call me. I mean, do you get what I'm trying to tell you? What the hell? If you can't pick up the underwear and the pills and hold them up and say we have a problem, how are we going to remedy this?

Instead, I'm just going to ask him questions and he's not going to answer them. What keeps you from picking up the underwear and anything else holding them up, standing in front of him and saying we have a problem.

What keeps you from doing that simple thing? Tell me just answer that. It's like a hope that it's something else that he can explain away.

So are we going to face that that's correct? So what you're saying is if you don't deal with it, it may evaporate.

Right. Okay, well, it's not going to evaporate. No.

So pick up the underwear and whatever else you found, stand in front of him and say looks like we don't have a marriage.

Because you got to face the truth, Lucy. It doesn't help to not face the truth.

Right. That's good. Good to hear because I was wondering if that was too much to excessive.

What are you talking about to excessive holding up the underwear and whatever else is excessive excessive.

What does that mean? What does that even mean excessive?

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