Fear are our constant

Our constant companion.

For those of us from dysfunctional families, fear wasn't just something we felt in scary

moments. It was the air we breathed. As adults, fear is still there woven into our patterns and

behaviors often without us even realizing it. How fear shows up. Most of the time, we're not

walking around saying, I'm afraid.

We're just doing things, feeling things, reacting to things, but underneath so many of our

patterns and behaviors, fear is running the show.

Behavioral.

Procrastination, creating chaos, picking fights, doom scrolling, rage outburst, people

pleasing, overworking, self-sabotage, physical somatic,

chronic tension, exhaustion, migraines, digestive issues, panic attacks, numbness, always

being sick, relational, pushing people away, clinging, testing people's loyalty, withholding,

sharing too soon, isolating, constant reassurance seeking,

cognitive, catastrophizing, obsessive thoughts, hypervigilance, dissociation, analysis, paralysis,

never being able to decide.

Then versus now when fear gets its wires crossed.

For trauma survivors, not all fears are created equal. then versus now when fear gets its wires crossed.

For trauma survivors, not all fears are created equal,

and learning to tell the difference can be one of the hardest parts of healing.

Fears that match the present, reality-based fears.

These are fears that make sense, given our current circumstances,

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