getting good getting good if you're getting good if you grew up in a household where chaos was the

norm where love was inconsistent, where joy was

fleeting, where calmness meant the calm before the storm, then your nervous system

likely learned something that doesn't make a lot of logical sense. Safety doesn't feel safe.

Good doesn't feel good. Joy doesn't feel trustworthy. In fact, good might feel

downright threatening. When you're developing brain and nervous system were shaped in an unpredictable,

emotionally unsafe environment, you may have learned to brace for impact always. You learned that peace could turn

into panic at any moment, that love could disappear, that the other shoe was always about to drop.

And so even now, as an adult, it can feel dangerous to exhale, to enjoy, to receive.

It's not dysfunction.

That's a survival response.

So when things start going well in your life, it's common to feel a strange unease,

a quiet dread or even a compulsion to make something go wrong.

Because chaos at least is familiar.

It makes sense in your body but goodness that's unfamiliar

and unfamiliar feels unsafe here are some of the ways this shows up you feel uneasy when things are

going well you keep waiting for it to all fall apart or assume it must be too good to be true

you try to sabotage or poke holes in healthy relationships.

You become hypercritical or pull away or convince yourself they'll leave you anyways.

You feel uncomfortable in moments of joy, peace, or lightness, as if you're doing something

wrong, as if it can't possibly last. You downplay your progress. You

don't acknowledge your growth, your wins are the moments where you've truly broken a cycle

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