Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone in finding that that's okay with them.

My name is Andrea and this is a little child.

Yeah, hey, now. Welcome back to Let it all go

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Welcome back to an old child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family.

Ahoy, my dear shit shows.

For any new listeners, my name is Andrea.

I am a total and complete shit show.

I'm a recovering alcoholic.

I'm an adult child of an alcoholic and dysfunctional family.

And if you're wondering what the hell an adult child is,

an adult child is somebody whose unresolved childhood pain is surfacing and playing out in adulthood.

And no, not in a good way, not in a good way,

people pleasing, approval seeking, overdeveloped sense of responsibility, fear of people and

authority figures, an inability to say no, fear of abandonment, fear of engulfment, difficulty

expressing your emotions, a tendency to be attracted to the emotionally unavailable.

And that's just some of the lovely side effects that we're dealing with here, folks. So if you related to some of those, you're in the right place. This is the podcast where we talk about what the hell to do about it. We curse here. You've been warned. I'm an acquired taste. You've been warned. Welcome aboard this hot mess of a ship. Buckle up. So today, folks, we are revisiting an episode with Fanfave, friend of the pod. You know him, you love him, you love his podcast, host of the

Mental Illness Happy Hour, Mr. Paul Gil Martin. Now, this is a raw, real, no bullshit conversation between two recovering chit shows about

navigating relationships with insecure attachment styles, with complex trauma, about intimacy,

the fear of engulfment, learning to let yourself be seen, and what navigating a healthy relationship

actually looks like when you've never been in one before. Yeah. And as always with Paul,

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