What about not being healed from a relationship and going into another relationship?

Should the focus be on working on yourself until you've healed?

Well, look, I think it's not possible to fully heal from a past relationship without having new relationship.

And it doesn't have to be romantic relationships.

We heal relationally, right?

Because if we've had trust broken or if we felt betrayed or if we've lost hope,

how are we going to heal that on our own? Like we need connection so that we can

remind ourselves and reaffirm that love is safe, that connection is safe. We really do require a relationship as human beings.

Most of us enter into relationships with unheeled stuff from the past. Like I've not yet met a person who doesn't have something that isn't quite resolved.

Some painful experience or memory that might be lingering underneath the surface or that might be

causing some hesitancy to let go.

And that's just the nature of being human and taking leaps and, you know,

experimenting in love.

Hey everybody, welcome to the Pretty Intense Podcast. Thank you so much for coming. You're in for a treat today. A lovely delicate sweet and important treat of Shalina Ayana.

She is a spiritual counselor.

She has an incredible account on Instagram

that is called Rising Woman.

And she just wrote a book, her first book called Becoming the One. I don't think there could be probably a more important message and lesson for everyone to step into and embody and that's that you're not trying to find the person that's going to complete

you, you're going to learn how to complete yourself and you're going to become

the one that you're always seeking.

And it doesn't mean that we aren't in community.

It doesn't mean that we don't have helping hands along the way.

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