She Thought She Was “Too Much” Until She Met the Right Person
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 19 May 2026
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
Chloe Hechter joins the podcast for a conversation about everything your twenties are actually filled with: changing career paths, feeling behind, navigating dating in New York City, and learning how to stop centering relationships as the main goal. From growing up as a New York theater kid to switching majors in college, going viral online, and finding confidence after years of feeling “too much,” Chloe opens up about reinventing yourself in your twenties and realizing that nobody really has it figured out. We also talk about long distance relationships, Jewish identity and dating, influencer culture, internet hate, and why the best relationships happen when you stop making finding one your entire personality.
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| 0:00.0 | Chloe Hector, welcome to seeing other people. Hi, oh my gosh, I'm so happy to be here. I feel like this is so overdue. It's so overdue, like years overdue. I'm also sitting across from you. I'm like, no, no, I know you. Like we have actually, we know each other. We went to the same school years apart. Everyone's always like, when are you gonna collab with Alana Don? Same, no, same. We were also in the same sorority. |
| 0:23.1 | Yes. |
| 0:23.6 | Oh my gosh. |
| 0:24.7 | LML. LML. I asked Jake the other day on the pot. I was like, I randomly said LML, which like I don't. That's not in my vocabulary. I always say, because when people ask what it means, like you're not technically supposed to tell people, like, I don't really care. But I'll always say, lost my luggage or, you know, not to be inappropriate, but I'll say, like, lick my labia. Nice. Yeah. That's, that's totally what it means. That's what it means. That's what it means, obviously. There's so much for us to talk about. |
| 0:54.7 | And I specifically, like, did not want us to speak for more than, like, three minutes before we pressed record. No, that's perfect. I know. I was, like, starting to catch up. And then you were like, no, like, we're recording. We have to wait. We have to wait. I want to hear about what your Syracuse experience was like versus nine. Yes. And also, happy birthday. |
| 1:11.2 | You just turned 25. |
| 1:12.2 | Yes, I turned 25 on Saturday. |
| 1:13.9 | So like, oh my God, like three days ago. It was just the Saturday. You're, you're ancient now. You're 25 and three days old. I'm geriatric. I'm 25 and three days old. My frontal lobe is developed, which is huge. Yes, mazel top. Thank you. I'm so excited for you. Big deal. Big things to come. Yes. You're in such an exciting time in your life and you are making the most of it. You are working this like dream job that you built for yourself. Yes. I was literally saying the other day I was on the phone with my accountant and I was like, I have the dream job until taxes. Oh my God. It's so hard. It's so confusing. It's the worst job to do taxes for because I feel like when you're in like a big corporate job, they take the taxes out. They do the 401k for you. They do the IRA. Like he's like saying things to me and I'm like I, you're speaking of foreign language. I, how can I just trust you to handle all of it like yeah |
| 2:04.5 | because well we signed on or we we fell into being content creators yes we didn't sign on to be |
| 2:11.8 | business owners no of course not and I also didn't necessarily intend to ever do this full time. It just kind of happened. |
| 2:19.1 | What did you want to do? So I actually, I don't know if you knew this, I started at Syracuse in the |
| 2:26.1 | acting conservatory. Okay. You were a theater kid. I was a theater kid. And I was also like, |
| 2:31.0 | I was a professional child actor. Really? Yes. Oh my God. I don't, I wasn't like crazy successful. I was never on Broadway or anything. But I did have small roles on Nickelodeon and Disney. Shut up. And yeah, I mean, voiceovers and I did some commercials and I did some off-Broadway. You need to talk about this more. I just like, it's so not. I'm like, oh, it's so, it's cool objectively, but then like I was such a like weird little theater kid. Like I wasn't, you know what I mean? Yeah. I went to theater. Like when people are like, what camp did you go to? I'm like, I went to French woods. Like I went to theater camp. I didn't go to one of the big, like, jappy camps. But even Frenchwoods, like, I was so impressed by my Frenchwood's friends because I'm like, oh, like, they're so good at this thing. And that's why they get to go there. My Frenchwood's friends were all at my birthday party this weekend. Like we're all still so close. I love them all to death. |
| 3:31.7 | Yeah, I went to LaGuardia High School for acting. |
| 3:36.0 | And I really didn't like LaGuardia. |
| 3:38.5 | I just had a negative experience there. |
| 3:40.7 | But I guess it was sort of like sinceGuardia. I just had a negative experience there, but I guess it was sort of like |
| 3:43.6 | since we were acting majors in high school, it was just thought to be the pipeline to get this like |
| 3:50.3 | it's called like a BFA. Right. Conservatory program. And I knew I wanted to still go to like a big fun school. So I was kind of looking |
| 3:59.9 | like Syracuse and then like, you know, Michigan, Penn State and you Miami also have really good |
| 4:05.8 | acting programs but are still like big fun schools. And out of those I just, I toured Syracuse and it |
| 4:12.0 | was my favorite from the get go. I loved Syracuse. |
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