This is understanding today's narcissist.

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And now here's your host, Christine Hammond.

Today we're going to be talking about the 11 different ways.

A narcissist uses shame to try to control you and other people.

The reason this is so incredibly important is because shaming a person is a form of emotional

abuse.

And if you don't realize that you are being shamed into something, then you might make a mistake

and allow the narcissist to gain control in some

way. And a lot of times they use this just as a way of reiterating the fact that they are better than you

and that they are more superior in some fashion. So we're going to talk a little bit about the 11 different ways that this

looks like. And first, I want to share with you a couple of stories to just kind of get a good

idea for what this actually feels like and what it feels like to be shamed by somebody.

So you could be at a dinner party, for instance. And while you're at the party, all of a sudden,

your narcissistic spouse makes some comment that is really embarrassing. It could be something

that happened in the past. It could be a story about something for which information was confidential.

And they're sharing it publicly in front of others to kind of put you down, because maybe perhaps something great just happened to you,

and everybody was praising you or excited about something, and then now all of a sudden,

the narcissist comes in to just kind of like nail you down a little bit further.

We see this tactic a lot with parents.

And like what they tend to do, a narcissist will do with a child, for instance, is say,

I'm just trying to keep you humble because I don't want you to get too big of a head,

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