Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. I'm here with eight men and this is the last day of our miserable flux men's retreat.

This is the closing circle and everyone's agreed to be recorded and to capture this moment on audio as a time capsule.

So it's been a meaningful weekend.

And the first question I want to ask is what is your

takeaway so just kind of take a moment think about

this weekend think about the conversations a lot of times it's kind of the corner conversations, right? A lot of times it's, you know, someone just said like on the drive home or on the drive back.

Or maybe it would be when you were doing the ice and you actually weren't

talking to anyone but something came up or a thought insight what are some things that you are taking away with you?

And also if you want to share a little bit about your story just brought

you can just for the you know so people have contacts.

Let's start with let's start up this way.

I think my biggest takeaway is that I just need to kind of spend some time figuring on myself. You know there's things I came here kind of looking for clarity on, but the same time I think that those things are going to be dictated by, you know, essentially the work I do on myself and kind of find out what that means. So I think that taking the next

couple days to really really just think that through like kind of put the tools

into practice that we learned here and just kind of put the tools into practice that we learned here and just kind of just kind of

essentially let my brain do its thing, write down my thoughts and just kind of figure out what's the next steps are for me.

So I think that's actually a pretty big deal because I feel like I haven't given myself time to do that.

Can I ask why haven't you given yourself that time and how do you see that time now important to you?

Because you mentioned that you don't do a lot for yourself.

I mean you work hard, you work lot but this kind of stuff really happens.

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