You're listening to the Allender Center podcast with Dr. Dan Allender.

This week, Dan kicks off a three-part conversation with therapist and minister Jay Stringer.

Jay's new book, Unwanted, How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing,

was released earlier this month, and he joins Dan to talk

about the deep need to change the conversation about sexual brokenness.

I have an incredible privilege to be with not only a dear friend and colleague, but an amazing first-time author, Jay Stringer. Jay, so good to be with you.

Thank you for having me, Dan. So good to be with you.

Well, you have a new book,

and I want to be very clear to people. This is a stunningly remarkable book, and we're going to talk

about it on three different podcasts. It's called Unwanted, how sexual brokenness reveals our way

to healing. It comes out, came out in early September. And I wrote,

I had the privilege of being an endorser, and they actually hit me on the back of the book.

Without rival, the best book on broken sexuality I have ever read and might be truer to say one of the best, if not one of the best,

best books, just on sexuality. So as we enter into this conversation, I would love for

our listeners, not merely to purchase, of course, but far more to begin that process of addressing some of the

core questions you came into this book before you even perhaps had the introduction done.

What was prompting the book?

What were the core questions you wanted to address that actually was the inception of this book?

So as a therapist, people were arriving in my office with virtually no understanding of what

freedom from, I refer to as unwanted sexual behavior, be that the use of pornography, infidelity, or buying

sex. And one of the things that became really apparent is that almost every paradigm that people

had been given was not effective for long-term change. So if they came from a Christian context,

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