Sex from Your Spouse's Perspective
Focus on the Family Marriage Podcast
Focus on the Family
4.5 • 1.9K Ratings
🗓️ 29 December 2022
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
When it comes to sex, it's good to consider what your spouse wants as more important than what you want. John talks to the Smalley's about why it's not good for the marriage if you respond poorly after your spouse turns down a request for sex. Featuring Mr. Gary Thomas and Mrs. Debra Fileta.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey friends, here's the latest episode of my podcast, ReFocus with Jim Daily, featuring |
| 0:04.5 | former NFL player, Benjamin Watson. He shares about protecting the lives of every |
| 0:09.6 | human being, pursuing justice for all. Visit ReFocus with JimDaily.com. |
| 0:20.7 | We're talking today about sexuality in your marriage and what to do about selfishness. |
| 0:27.1 | I'm John Fuller in the studio with Greg Smalley and his wife Aaron and we're going to kick off |
| 0:31.9 | this episode with a conversation that Deborah Fileta and Gary Thomas had with Jim Daily and me. |
| 0:38.0 | It's a continuation of a discussion about their book called Married Sex, which is a wonderful |
| 0:44.1 | biblical book about this aspect of marriage. Here now is Jim Daily. Deborah, I want to be cautious |
| 0:50.8 | here because one of the feedback loops that we get here at Focus will be women that feel |
| 0:57.2 | certain amount of guilt because we're talking about this freedom in Christ and this is what we |
| 1:02.0 | should be enjoying and they struggle. They deeply struggle with making that step and it doesn't |
| 1:09.3 | come with that great joy. We mentioned it a moment ago and I want to ask a little bit further |
| 1:15.2 | here on that obligation feeling because perhaps the brainwiring and their desires chemically, |
| 1:23.2 | it's just not as high and so their husbands thinking about it more often. Maybe probing, |
| 1:29.7 | saying, hey, is tonight going to be a good night for us and she, yeah, fine, okay. It's that kind |
| 1:37.6 | of reaction. How does she get over that difficulty of embracing it for something that is good and |
| 1:47.6 | not something that is bad? I mean, this is the million dollar question right here and how do men |
| 1:52.0 | become more sensitive? I don't want to let us off the hook to where we understand that. She's |
| 1:57.6 | just not thinking the way we're thinking. Like I said a moment ago, fine, you know, I love dessert. |
| 2:02.4 | I mean, I'm never too tired. So how do we manage that together and how can we encourage our wives |
| 2:09.8 | to, yeah, whatever, okay? Yeah, you know, first and foremost, I think women need to really understand |
| 2:16.6 | that it shouldn't be the norm to have that type of reaction towards sex. I think sometimes culture |
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