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When it comes to the topic of sex, many couples struggle to talk about it because

they fear being vulnerable. But the more you're willing to discuss this with

your mate, the more meaningful and fulfilling this aspect of the relationship

can be. I'm John Fuller along with Greg Smolley and his wife Aaron. They

lead the focus marriage team. And Aaron, you do a lot of counseling. What are

some of the more, let's call them common struggles that you see with regard to

sexuality? Well, I think you just nailed the first one on the head as far as we

don't talk about it. And so whatever the sexual issue is, not talking about it

preludes everything. And so like if you put, you know, not talking about it

underneath that I would say, you know, the biggest problem is sexual

desire, which could be caused by so many different things as far as, you

know, is it that there's been mishandled conflict and pain and hurt in the

relationship? Or is there a physical issue going on, hormonal issue? What's

causing the low desire? But when the couple's not talking about it, then they

don't have the, they don't have the opportunity to discover what is driving

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